In Response to 'One Pissed Off Mother'

By now you have probably heard about the horrible excuse for a human being  who wrote a hateful letter to the family of Max, a kid with autism.  I linked there to the story of the letter written by this waste of skin and about how twitter has responded.  More importantly of course, his neighbourhood has responded, they like Max.  He is part of the community.  Seeing other kids high five him on the news, and seeing how they clearly meant it made most of us feel good, and Max seemed into it. 

Most people are pretty good about disabilities nowadays, indeed, our son, Jon, has never had anything bad happen in school from classmates.  There have been misunderstandings (see an earlier post of mine about Jon's art) but generally the school has been excellent.

Today we were out getting a couple of games at EB and the guy there was awesome, he talked to Jon, Jon kept trying to pre order COD:Ghosts, and the guy at EB said 'It is an M rated game, you can't have it without ID'.  It was cool.  (As an aside, the guys at EB here are great with most anyone, I have seen them interact with all types of people with all kinds of disabilites, always with class, good on them).

In our neighbourhood people know Jon, they say hi.  At the mall Jon saw one of his teachers, he said hi, the guy responded all happily 'Hi Jon!'  

So you see 'Pissed Off Mother' you are the one with the fucking problem.  Most everyone else in the society we live in is just fine with people who are different.  

Oh, and from One Proud Father to One Pissed Off Mother, fuck off.

What the hell does 2+ mean?

Our 10 year old son Jon has autism.  He is quite high functioning, in a regular class with normal kids (yes I said 'normal', I am using that in a statistical sense, if you don't like it, get your own blog) and mostly does the same course work they do.  Indeed, his grades put him somewhere in the middle of the pack on average.  He rocks spelling, and French, he loves reading, and like a lot of kids his age, he is not much on math....  There are other classes of course, including gym and art.  Now I get the utility of art and gym.  They are important.  Physical acticivty and creative stuff are good things, and a well rounded person does these things as well as academic pursuits.  

I may be wrong (as unlikely as that seems....) but I think that part of the point of art is to express emotion.  Now if you know anything about autism you know that emotions are hard for people like Jon.  They have trouble reading them in other people, and expressing them.  Jon wants to understand emotion in others, he often asks 'what feeling do you have?' when he does not know (which, by the way, is VERY cool).  

Well, the kids had an art assignment, and it seems it was to make posters for being good people.  You know, that sort of touchy feely fuzzy stuff they do to encourage good behaviour.  Jon did a poster of two people holding hands and wrote over top of it 'Be a friend'.  When I saw it it brought tears to my eyes.  He was expressing emotion with a drawing, not just drawing plane crashes or writing up reports on plane crashes (Jon like plane crashes.....).  My poor quality photo of Jon's drawing. Drawing (c) Jon Brodbeck, 2011

So I was very proud of this work.  Hell I still am.  I then turned it over and saw a grade on it.  He got a '2+'.  I asked Jon what the heck that meant and he explained that things are graded out of 4.  (He got a 4+ on a spelling test yesterday, and that was perfect, so you get the idea).  So, apparently, according to Jon's art teacher, his work is barely a pass.  OK, look I know the kid is no Ken Danby (thought I would throw a Sault Ste. Marie reference in there) but it frankly is no worse than what I would have done at that age.  (Honestly).  Plus, it seems to me that he worked within the parameters of the assignment, he successfully is promoting being a good person.  Finally, HE IS A PERSON WIHT AUTISM WHO JUST EXPRESSED EMOTION THROUGH ART.  (I was shouting there, if you are wondering, oh and I left the word 'FUCKING' out...)  

I know this is not a big deal for him, I asked, he couldn't care less.  But, this is to me.  I wonder, what was the objective criterion used to grade his work (or the other kids in his class?)  So this is just barely a pass is it?  For a kid that has trouble expressing and even UNDERSTANDING emotion.  Seems to me this is a 4 at least.  

Now please, I am not saying that in say spelling or math or French or whatever that he should be given some special consideration if he is in the regular program.  He should be graded like everyone else (and he is).  But, in this case, let's be impressed shall we?  He did something that was harder for him than it would be for anyone else in the damned school.  

We have expressed our concerns and I am confident all will be well.  I can also tell you that I am now using this picture as my desktop and we are framing this picture, 2+ be damned.